You Are Not My Mother
Movie • 2021
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A young woman's mother goes missing and then returns with a different personality.
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Is an LGBT+ person outed?
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A rude character makes a licking motion between a V-shaped hand gesture to tease another girl about having a "girlfriend". It's intended as an insult. It's never stated whether she actually is queer or not.
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Does a woman get slapped?
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Is a child abandoned by a parent?
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mother temporarily leaves child
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Does someone leave without saying goodbye?
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Character disappears toward the beginning of the plot
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FlickerFan
The fire incident with the baby is suggested but barely visible; the baby survives and is left with only a small facial burn scar. The intent of the adult was not really to harm or kill the baby either.
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Is there domestic violence?
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Is someone gaslighted?
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much of the movie is about the mother having mental health issues, and the plot is focused on her having been replaced with a changeling type version of herself. this is kind of gaslighty in the sense that real life mental health issues sometimes get treated in this way and could be uncomfy
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Does the abused become the abuser?
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EvilMetalDork
A couple of kids smoke what appears to be weed.
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there is a brief comment by one of the girls about the bonfire last year getting a cat thrown on it, but it is extremely brief and played as a joke with zero focus
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Does a cat die?
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FlickerFan
No cats in the movie but a girl mentions someone throwing a cat into a bonfire.
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A cat is said to have been killed, but this is only in dialogue in a passing moment.
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Does a horse die?
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One is almost run over, but it survives unharmed
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Is someone restrained?
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A woman is tied up by her wrists on a bed in a dream and then later in real life.
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Is someone drugged?
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SPOILER: a man has drugs put in his tea and suffers from a seizure because of it
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Is someone held under water?
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a woman temporarily pulls her child underwater
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Is someone beaten up by a bully?
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Not beaten up, but threatened with physical violence and attacked
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Bodily Harm
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Is someone tortured?
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Tormented and bullied, but not tortured in a stricter sense
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Is there cannibalism?
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No. But just in case, there is a scene where a mom playfully chases her daughter around with pumpkin pulp/seeds and calls them "brains", saying her child wants to eat them.
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Does someone asphyxiate?
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one man has a seizure and foams at the mouth, and has to be resuscitated and given a breathing apparatus in the ambulance
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Is there Achilles Tendon injury?
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no, but a character does break their ankle
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Does someone break a bone?
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soravanitas
When the mom starts aggressively stomping and jumping around to some music, there is a close up shot of her ankle breaking with a loud cracking sound
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Does someone have a seizure?
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Adult male is seen having a fit on the floor, including rolled eyes, tensed muscles and foaming at the mouth
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Does someone fall down stairs?
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PeachyBaby
It is heavily implied that the Granny is pushed down the steps. You don't see it, but you hear it faintly.
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Does someone fall to their death?
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PeachyBaby
It is heavily implied that the Granny is pushed down the steps. You don't see it, but you hear it faintly.
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Are there dislocations?
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A character lands on their ankle wrong and ends up breaking it
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Is someone burned alive?
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The baby is not burned alive, a character reveals later in the movie that they never intended any harm to the child. The adult changeling, however, doesn't get so lucky.
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Are any teeth damaged?
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soravanitas
The mom spits out a bloody tooth at one point
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Children
Is a minor sexualized?
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there are a few sexual comments made between minors
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Is an infant abducted?
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It doesn't occur on screen but there are references to a previous infant abduction
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Death
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A demon dies, but I'm not sure if it counts.
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Is someone disabled played by able-bodied?
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The nan has a mobility issue, her actress does not.
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Drugs/Alcohol
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PeachyBaby
Not on purpose, the man is poisoned by an overdose of lithium. (Spoiler: He ends up alive and fine!)
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Fear
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I concur. Very, very mild.
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Is someone possessed?
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SPOILER: it’s not possession it’s a changing
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Are there natural bodies of water?
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Just a brief lake scene
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Are there ghosts?
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FlickerFan
A ghost appears and appears menacing but turns out to be only warning someone about a danger nearby.
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Gross
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abiut 22 mins in x
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Is there audio gore?
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Brutal ankle break
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Does someone spit?
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Someone spits up blood and also makes themself vomit
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Loss
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Medical
Is there a mental institution scene?
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MjHygate
No, but mental health treatment and medication run thoughout the film
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Are needles/syringes used?
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none seen on screen, but one character in hospital is shown to have an IV bag
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no, but there is a significant portion of the start of the movie where a character is suggested to have committed suicide. the character does not die and ends up having just gone missing, but it seemed like a very real possibility for a moment
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Does someone attempt suicide?
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skin picking, tearing hair out, purposefully breaking bones
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Does someone have an eating disorder?
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no, but the mother at one point makes herself vomit in a way that could be triggering to someone with a history of purging
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Is there misophonia?
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PeachyBaby
Chewing gum, a scene where characters eat and you can hear the sound of heavy chewing, spitting, and some sort of scratching on fabric.
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Does someone suffer from PTSD?
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PeachyBaby
I'm sure Char has major PTSD and exhibits signs of it throughout the film, but is never explicitly stated.
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Is there a claustrophobic scene?
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soravanitas
Some bullies trap a girl in a pile of wooden pallets set up for a bonfire
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Does someone say "I'll kill myself"?
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soravanitas
No, but there is a similar line in the beginning of the movie; the mom is clearly very depressed and she says "I can't do this anymore" and then she goes missing, and it is implied that her daughter is worried that her mom committed suicide (which she did not)
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Are there anxiety attacks?
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Char has a panic attack.
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Is a mentally ill person violent?
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The changeling is violent, the mentally ill character is a victim.
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Noxious
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Is there obscene language/gestures?
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A teenager pantomimes cunnilingus to make fun of a friend
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Paranoia
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Pregnancy
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Are there homophobic slurs?
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at one point a homophobic gesture is used to imply one of the girls has been in a sexual relationship with her friend. I found it jarring and uncomfortable, since it kind of came out of nowhere
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no, but i think it could be interpreted as having similar themes in the sense that the plot revolves around changeling folklore, like stealing children
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Is there ableist language or behavior?
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Frequent ableist comments about the protagonist and her family
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Race
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Relationships
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Sex
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Are there incestuous relationships?
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Sickness
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Does someone have a chronic illness?
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EvilMetalDork
The mother has an unspecified but apparently lifelong mental illness
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Does someone have a stroke?
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no, but someone does have an on-screen seizure
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Social
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Violence
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There is a small amount of blood
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Does someone drown?
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There's a scene where one character drags another under water ("playfully") but does not drown, only gets scared.
One character says that their mother drowned, but no scene is shown.
One character says that their mother drowned, but no scene is shown.
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