Mary And Max

Movie • 2009 • Animation  

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A tale of friendship between two unlikely pen pals: Mary, a lonely, eight-year-old girl living in the suburbs of Melbourne, and Max, a forty-four-year old, severely obese man living in New York. In the mid-1970s, a homely, friendless Australian girl of 8 picks a name out of a Manhattan phone book and writes to him; she includes a chocolate bar. He writes back, with chocolate. Thus begins a 20-year correspondence. Will the two ever meet face to face?
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Does the dog die?
264 supporters
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kolbi
Not on screen, but one of two of the neighbor’s chihuahuas die. The one digs the other’s bones up
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Unanswered Triggers
Is an animal sad?
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Is a woman brutalized for spectacle?
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Are rabbits harmed?
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Is there on-screen pooping?
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Are there sudden loud noises?
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Is someone eaten?
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Is there decapitation?
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Are there end credit scenes?
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Abandonment
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throwaway2468
8-year-old Mary is often neglected by her parents, with Noel (her father) often in the shed stuffing dead animals, and Vera (her mother) providing no support at all.
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Is an animal abandoned?
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Abuse
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ESBirdnerd
Mary’s parents are neglectful
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Is someone stalked?
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BeeGhost
There is a brief scene where Max is slapped by his mother as a kid
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HickoryDickoryProductions
Mary becomes a drunk like her neglectful mother, but it's a depressive episode and she doesn't abuse anyone
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Is someone gaslighted?
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Is a child abused?
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Dreamscape
A boy is hit in the back of the head for stuttering. Another boy is hit for drawing on a wall. Neither kid ends up physically harmed from it
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Addiction
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Dreamscape
There's alcohol addiction and a woman tries to overdose on a drug
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Is there addiction?
12 supporters
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Dreamscape
Alcohol and food addiction
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throwaway2468
In the first half of the movie, Vera is a alcoholic, often drinking cooking sherry. Later on, adult Mary starts drinking cooking sherry like her mother.
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Animal
Were animals harmed in the making?
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Does a horse die?
70 supporters
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throwaway2468
No horses in the movie.
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Does an animal die?
(besides a dog, cat or horse)
128 supporters
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Dreamscape
Goldfish die and are killed in a variety of ways
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Are animals abused?
148 supporters
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Dreamscape
Goldfish are killed in a variety of ways
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kolbi
Multiple fish die (some in gruesome ways), the dad’s hobby is stuffing dead birds, a live dog digs up a dead dog’s bones
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Does a cat die?
128 supporters
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ESBirdnerd
It is implied Max’s cat dies
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Does a pet die?
116 supporters
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throwaway2468
Many of Max's fish die in various ways.
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Does a dragon die?
21 supporters
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throwaway2468
No dragons in the movie.
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Are there spiders?
35 supporters
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throwaway2468
No spiders in the movie.
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Are there alligators/crocodiles??
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Are there snakes?
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throwaway2468
No snakes in the movie.
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Are there sharks?
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Are there bugs?
21 supporters
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kolbi
Max captures flies to feed his fish
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Assault
Is someone drugged?
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Is there pedophilia?
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Is someone held under water?
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Is rape mentioned?
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Is someone beaten up by a bully?
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Is someone restrained?
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kolbi
There is a woman who kisses Max without his consent
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Is someone's mouth covered?
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BeeGhost
Max is sexually assaulted by a woman from his overeaters anonymous meetings. It is taken seriously
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Bodily Harm
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movieman
Mary says in one of her letters, her father cuts her hair, and it shows her father about to do so (with hedge clippers)
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Is there throat mutilation?
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Dreamscape
A man hyperventilates during panic attacks
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Is there cannibalism?
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throwaway2468
There is a scene where Max's AC falls out of his apartment window and crushes a mime to death on the street.
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Is someone choked?
13 supporters
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throwaway2468
In one scene, a homeless man litters a cigarette butt near Max which makes him furious and Max starts strangling the homeless man.
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Is someone burned alive?
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Is someone buried alive?
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Is there body horror?
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Is there amputation?
18 supporters
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Dreamscape
A man's legs are chewed off by paranas
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Does a head get squashed?
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Is there Achilles Tendon injury?
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Is there a hanging?
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Dreamscape
A woman tries to hang herself but is interrupted
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lilpig
Someone is lifted off the ground by the neck and choked, but survives unscathed.
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Are any teeth damaged?
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Does someone become unconscious?
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Dreamscape
A man's legs are chewed off by paranas
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Does someone have a seizure?
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Is there genital trauma/mutilation?
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throwaway2468
A soldier's legs and toes are chewed off by piranhas.
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Is someone tortured?
68 supporters
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Dreamscape
A soldier is kidnapped and tortured in a flashback. A man is treated poorly for a long period of time at a mental institution
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Does someone fall down stairs?
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Does someone fall to their death?
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throwaway2468
One of Max's pet cats, Hal, has a missing eye from when kids shot Hal's eye out with a BB gun. However, mutilation is not shown.
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Is someone stabbed?
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JCWellsp
At one point a man’s leg gets bitten off by fish and they show his leg bleeding.
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Children
Is an infant abducted?
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Does a kid die?
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Is a minor sexualized?
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Death
Does someone sacrifice themselves?
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Does a major character die?
14 supporters
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Does a non-human character die?
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Does someone die?
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Disability
Is the r-slur used?
26 supporters
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throwaway2468
There is a scene where Max is craned out of his apartment, a newspaper spins into the screen with the title "Obese Retarded Man Craned Out".
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Drugs/Alcohol
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throwaway2468
Mary attempts to overdose.
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Family
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Dreamscape
We get a flashback of a soldier who was kidnapped during a war
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Does a parent die?
15 supporters
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Dreamscape
Both of a main character's parents die
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Does someone cheat?
15 supporters
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throwaway2468
SPOILERS: Later on in the movie, Mary’s husband cheats on her to be with his gay sheep farmer husband in New Zealand.
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Is a child's toy destroyed?
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Entavulp
Both of Mary’s parents die during the story. Max mentions his mother passing from suicide.
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Fear
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throwaway2468
Not really a jumpscare, but there is a part where it depicts Max’s mother killing herself with a gun. It’s not shown, but there is a loud gunshot noise that might jumpscare some people.
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Is someone possessed?
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Are there ghosts?
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Are there clowns?
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kolbi
There aren’t clowns, but a mime briefly shows up
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Are there razors?
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Is there a shower scene?
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Are there mannequins?
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Gross
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Dreamscape
We see a bully pee on a girl's lunch
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Does someone vomit?
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Does someone spit?
10 supporters
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Dreamscape
People and animals fart
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Is there audio gore?
38 supporters
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Dreamscape
The sound of bone breaking
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Is there farting?
8 supporters
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Anonymous
Max farts in an elevator
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Large-scale Violence
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throwaway2468
The movie is set decades before the events of 9/11, so no.
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Law Enforcement
Is there copaganda?
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LGBTQ+
Is there deadnaming or birthnaming?
30 supporters
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3
Are there transphobic slurs?
42 supporters
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3
Is an LGBT+ person outed?
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3
Is there bisexual cheating?
19 supporters
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Medical
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throwaway2468
In one scene, Max is in an mental institution where he is given shock therapy.
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1
Dreamscape
A syringe is used on a man
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throwaway2468
Max is in a mental institution for 8 months. in the hospital, he is given abusive shock therapy.
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Dreamscape
There's a scene in a mental hospital, a brief scene of someone about to get and recovering from cosmetic surgery, and also a few scenes at a dentist's office
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Does someone have cancer?
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Mental Health
Yes
6
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throwaway2468
A war veteran is unable to go outside due to his trauma.
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Does someone have a mental illness?
13 supporters
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4
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0
Does someone self harm?
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59 supporters
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4
No
8
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1
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6
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Entavulp
Max’s autism is a cornerstone of the film. It is portrayed extremely accurately and tastefully.
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movieman
Max manhandles a homeless man who littered a cigarette butt, but snaps out of it when he apologizes. A turning point of the movie.
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throwaway2468
There is no D.I.D representation in the film so this doesn't count.
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throwaway2468
One of the main characters Mary attempts suicide. She has a noose tied to her neck and she is going to overdose on valium.
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Entavulp
Max often has long meltdowns
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Is there misophonia?
32 supporters
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6
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1
Is there ABA therapy?
14 supporters
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3
Is there body dysphoria?
12 supporters
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0
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5
Yes
14
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0
1
Dreamscape
A girl hates the birth mark on her forehead
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2
Yes
16
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0
2
Dreamscape
A lot of the story revolves around Max's anxiety
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Is there a claustrophobic scene?
16 supporters
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7
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throwaway2468
Max has a binge eating disorder.
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Yes
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0
2
Dreamscape
Doctors drug and electrocute an autistic man
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Yes
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Noxious
Does a baby cry?
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5
Is there shakey cam?
29 supporters
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7
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throwaway2468
The movie is not live-action, so there’s no shakey cam.
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Is there obscene language/gestures?
6 supporters
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3
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3
1
Dreamscape
A white strobing effect for a few seconds
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Paranoia
Is someone watched without knowing?
6 supporters
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3
Is the fourth wall broken?
10 supporters
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Pregnancy
Is a baby stillborn?
18 supporters
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7
Is there childbirth?
18 supporters
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10
Are there abortions?
14 supporters
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10
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throwaway2468
Mary as an adult has a baby with her.
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Does someone miscarry?
18 supporters
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10
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10
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ihatescrappydoo
A pregnant woman does attempt suicide
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Prejudice
Are there fat jokes?
41 supporters
Yes
12
No
1
2
Dreamscape
A fat character makes up his own unhealthy dishes which could be interpreted as a fat joke. The narrator also comments on the character getting "wider", though the entire story is narrated in this kind of quirky way so I'm not sure if this is really a fat joke or not. Max goes to an overreaters anonymous group where fat people are hated on
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Does the black guy die first?
18 supporters
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0
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9
Are there homophobic slurs?
37 supporters
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8
2
Nuagematcha
Anti-semitic agression/bullying
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Are there "Man in a dress" jokes?
28 supporters
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8
Is there hate speech?
22 supporters
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12
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3
RyanS
A woman uses an anti-Chinese racial slur.
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throwaway2468
Throughout the movie, Max is subject to hate speech such as ableism and antisemitism.
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No
7
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Entavulp
Max is shown to be asexual. At the end of the movie, he dies.
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Dreamscape
A boy is hit on the back of the head for stuttering. A character goes to an overreaters anonymous group where fat people are hated on. Doctors drug and electrocute an autistic man. The word "retarded" is also used
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Are there n-words?
25 supporters
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10
Is there aphobia?
15 supporters
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Yes
1
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4
Race
Is there blackface?
24 supporters
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0
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5
Relationships
Yes
5
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3
1
throwaway2468
Mary is an 8-year-old child and Max is a 44-year-old man, however, there is no sexual/romantic relationship.
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Religious
Is religion discussed?
8 supporters
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Yes
2
No
1
Sex
Yes
15
No
0
1
Dreamscape
Audio only sex scenes, a few sexual jokes and non-sexual nudity
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Is someone sexually objectified?
33 supporters
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5
Yes
7
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0
1
throwaway2468
There is a brief scene where Max is on a desert island naked.
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Is there bestiality?
64 supporters
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5
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throwaway2468
Mary is in bed with her partner, Damien when she turns off the light and they both make love. There is no graphic sexual images but only sounds.
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Are there incestuous relationships?
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67 supporters
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0
No
10
Sexism
Yes
0
No
6
Sickness
Does someone have a stroke?
9 supporters
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0
No
7
Does someone have a chronic illness?
8 supporters
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Yes
0
No
6
Is there dementia/Alzheimer's?
18 supporters
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Yes
0
No
6
Social
Yes
8
No
0
1
throwaway2468
There is a homeless man in the movie who gets strangled by Max because they dropped a cigarette butt.
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Are there anti-abortion themes?
27 supporters
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0
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5
Are there fat suits?
20 supporters
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Yes
0
No
5
Spoiler
Is Santa (et al) spoiled?
2 supporters
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0
No
9
Yes
12
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1
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throwaway2468
The main ending of the movie is bittersweet, with Mary finding out Max kept all her letters. Whereas in an alternative version (only on DVD), Max is eaten by birds.
https://youtu.be/SMJzHaMNdAk
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Vehicular
Does a car crash?
13 supporters
Yes
7
No
3
0
fone
Yes, but it's off screen
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Does a car honk or tires screech?
12 supporters
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Yes
7
No
0
Does a plane crash?
5 supporters
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0
No
9
Yes
8
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2
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throwaway2468
One of Max's fish jumps out the window and gets hit by a car.
In the alternative ending, Mary’s agoraphobic neighbour gets hit by a car after giving Mary’s parcel.
https://youtu.be/SMJzHaMNdAk
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Violence
Is there a nuclear explosion?
4 supporters
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Yes
0
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10
Is there blood/gore?
44 supporters
Yes
11
No
0
0
Dreamscape
We are shown a man's cartoonish amputated leg
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Does someone drown?
13 supporters
Yes
12
No
0
1
throwaway2468
Mary’s father Noel is using a detector. He is distracted when a massive wave crashes down onto him, killing him.
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throwaway2468
Max's mother kills herself with a gun. However, this is not seen although we can hear a gunshot.
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