Does the dog die?
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“But You Said...?!": A Story of Confusion Caused by Growing Up as an Undiagnosed Autistic Person
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The author discusses her family dog Lisa’s rather painful death, and how her family buried the dog in a shallow grave and a fox dug into it and carried away the body. A later pet dog Friday is implied to have been euthanized, but the author never found out what happened specifically. There is discussion of the Welsh tale of Gelert, a dog killed by his owner over a misunderstanding.
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Timid cat forced into close quarters with a dog
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Discussion of a pet cat who was run over by a car after being scared out of the house by a dog. Discussion of rescue kittens being found dead in their cage
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The author discusses her family dog’s rather painful death, and how her family buried the dog in a shallow grave and a fox dug into it and carried away the body. There is discussion of the Welsh tale of Gelert, a dog killed by his owner over a misunderstanding. A wolf is killed in the story as well. Chicken attacked by a rescue dog later dies
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Does a pet die?
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The author discusses her family dog’s rather painful death, and how her family buried the dog in a shallow grave and a fox dug into it and carried away the body. Discussion of a pet cat who was run over by a car after being scared out of the house by a dog
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Is there a dead animal?
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The author discusses her family dog’s rather painful death, and how her family buried the dog in a shallow grave and a fox dug into it and carried away the body. There is discussion of the Welsh tale of Gelert, a dog killed by his owner over a misunderstanding. A wolf is killed in the story as well. The author discusses finding a dead fox and bringing its skull to school
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Does someone vomit?
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The author describes being “violently sick” a handful of times throughout the book
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The introduction starts, “I have only ever been given discouragement in life; only ever told what not to do or that what I am doing is wrong or not to do what I’m doing.” The book describes the author’s mistreatment throughout their life by allistic people responding negatively to her autistic traits and behaviors, including when she was quite a small child
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Is an animal abandoned?
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The author’s dog Friday had to be “removed” from their home after the author’s mom came back from the hospital. The author’s mom implied that Friday was euthanized, but the author never found out what happened specifically
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Is there eye mutilation?
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Not mutilation, but there’s discussion of being punched in the eye and having glasses damaged
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Passing discussion of a court case involving a girl being molested by her father. Mention of the rape of an 18-month-old
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Is there domestic violence?
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Are any teeth damaged?
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The author’s parents genuinely did not teach her about hygiene, so she never brushed her teeth as a child
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Are there abusive parents?
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The introduction starts, “I have only ever been given discouragement in life; only ever told what not to do or that what I am doing is wrong or not to do what I’m doing.” The book describes the author’s mistreatment throughout their life by allistic people responding negatively to her autistic traits and behaviors, including when she was quite a small child. After the author’s second suicide attempt (but the fist her parents found out about), her parents sawed the lock off her door, nailed the window shut, and found and read her diary
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Are there spiders?
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The author discusses how she wasn’t potty-trained properly as a child, and how her parents tried to potty train her by locking her in the bathroom and trying to scare her about the spiders that proliferated in there
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Are there nude scenes?
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Passing mention of the author’s parents taking her and her sister as children to a nudist beach
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Is there ableist language or behavior?
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The introduction starts, “I have only ever been given discouragement in life; only ever told what not to do or that what I am doing is wrong or not to do what I’m doing.” The book describes the author’s mistreatment throughout their life by allistic people responding negatively to her autistic traits and behaviors, including when she was quite a small child
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Is there on-screen pooping?
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The author discusses being thrown off a horse as a small child and landing in a pile of poo. She also mentions a dog eating his own poop and then licking her
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Is there shaving/cutting?
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Author discusses the unpleasantness of having her hair brushed, and how her parents sometimes beat her with a brush. She started cutting her own hair at age 30 because it kept getting snarled from being so fine
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Does an LGBT person die?
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Discussion of the AIDS crisis, which was and is especially devastating in the queer community
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Is someone gaslighted?
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Very frequent occurrence throughout the book
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Is a mentally ill person violent?
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Discussion of 1994 rape and murder by someone who escaped from a psychiatric facility
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Is there childbirth?
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The author’s driend Carol had a baby
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Does someone drown?
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The author mentions her swim teacher throwing her in the pool and not helping her,even though she was struggling, to the point that another child had to rescue her
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Does the abused become the abuser?
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Is there Achilles Tendon injury?
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Just after the anecdote about kitten being born
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Does a major character die?
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Several instances
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Does a parent die?
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Passing of grandparents discussed in early chapters. Author’s dad died in 1988
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Does a car crash?
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Non-fatal car crash described in “Class 5: Age 7-8 (1977-1978).” Discussion of 1988 Clapham Junction Rail Crash
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Author recounts how a teacher backhanded her twice, and, later, how her parents punched her in the face and generally beat her
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The author’s parents were addicted to smoking cigarettes. Discussion of a landlady who entered the author’s apartment heavily inebriated
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Is someone hit by a car?
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Mention of roadkill. Later, anecdote about her father hitting her with a car and not stopping to check on her. Mention of the singer from the band The Faith Brothers getting hit by a truck
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Is someone terminally ill?
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Author’s grandma died of liver cancer. Author’s dad died of meningitis
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Does someone wet/soil themselves?
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The author discusses how she wasn’t potty-trained properly as a child, and how her parents tried to potty train her by locking her in the bathroom and trying to scare her about the spiders that proliferated in there
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Does a family member die?
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Several instances
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Is someone stalked?
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Discussion of a friend being arrested for trying to break into an ex’s house
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Does someone overdose?
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The author discusses attempting suicide via overdose
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Does someone have cancer?
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Author’s grandma died of liver cancer
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Does a plane crash?
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Discussion of the 1988 Pan Am Flight 103 explosion and the 1989 Kegworth Air Disaster
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Are there babies or unborn children?
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The author’s driend Carol had a baby
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Does someone die?
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Several instances
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Is there a hospital scene?
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When the author’s mom needs quadruple bypass surgery after a heart attack
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Does someone have a chronic illness?
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The author’s mom “was never well again” after a quadruple bypass surgery
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Is religion discussed?
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Discussions of attending church and Sunday school
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The author’s parents were addicted to smoking cigarettes
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Does someone leave without saying goodbye?
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Several instances
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Swearing
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Does someone become unconscious?
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After first time drinking. Later, after a suicide attempt. Later, when her dad is put into a mediay induced coma
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Is someone homeless?
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The author spends a significant period being homeless. She also discusses homelessness experienced by others in her life
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Is there incarceration?
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Discussion of a friend being arrested for trying to break into an ex’s house
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Are needles/syringes used?
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Passing mention of getting a tetanus shot
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Are there heart attacks?
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The author’s mother, multiple occasions
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Are there natural bodies of water?
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The ocean
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Does someone abuse alcohol?
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Underage drinking. Discussion of a landlady who entered the author’s apartment heavily inebriated.
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Is there autism specific abuse?
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The introduction starts, “I have only ever been given discouragement in life; only ever told what not to do or that what I am doing is wrong or not to do what I’m doing.” The book describes the author’s mistreatment throughout their life by allistic people responding negatively to her autistic traits and behaviors, including when she was quite a small child
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The author discusses attempting suicide via overdose on two occasions
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Does someone die by suicide?
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Does someone say "I'll kill myself"?
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Is there a claustrophobic scene?
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The author discusses how she wasn’t potty-trained properly as a child, and how her parents tried to potty train her by locking her in the bathroom and trying to scare her about the spiders that proliferated in there
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